Spouse faux pas

I'm not sure what everybody's status is regarding spouse interest in wine but while my wife has a good palate after 38 years of marraige she still does stuff involving our cellar that drives me crazy! This weekend after attending a party and drinking a bit of cheap chardonnay and some red wine with dinner..2008 Orin Swift..The Prisoner...I heard her banging around in our upstairs wine rack looking for something to open at 10:45pm. I didn't think much of it as she usually sits in her office and does emails, etc until around midnight and often sips a glass of wine. I usually keep some inexpensive wines in that rack just for that purpose. When I walked out to the kitchen to turn off lights, etc. I found a bottle of 2006 Pahlmeyer Napa Valley Cabernet (a recent gift from a friend for hosting a dinner) with the foil torn off, a broken cork on the counter and a glass with cork floating in it. I asked her what she was thinking when she opened the bottle of premium Cabernet at 11:00pm and she shrugged and said.."You always tell me to open anything in the rack so I did". OK, she knew it was a gift and she put it in the rack instead of the cellar. She also knows what Pahlmeyer wine sells for..so...when I pressed her on the issue she responded by informing me that the gift was meant for her and as such she could open it whenever she wished. Good point. 5 minutes later she was sound asleep...victim of too much wine. I strained the bits of cork and poured her wine out of her glass into mine and sipped the cabernet as I contemplated the logic of women. Arrrrrgggggg!