My steps to gung fu have been (and I make no claim to purity here, I am still putting things together from various instruction webpages I've read and messages from various tea lists):
1-heat the water, set out the equipment (yixing pot, fair cup, drinking and/or smelling cup)
2-pour boiling water into and over the pot and the cups (and yes I had been pouring it over the handle, I was more careful last night and the handle was better. Cups were still hot, no way to get around that)
3-let sit for a few seconds to heat up the teawares, then pour out boiling water from everything (here's the first and worst place usually that I get my fingers burned)
4-put leaves in teapot, put lid on, let sit for around 10-15 seconds. Open lid, smell, enjoy. repeat as liked a few times (can reheat pot by pouring a little water over the outside)
5-pour a little water into leaves or the whole amount of water onto leaves. I have not been rinsing my leaves this batch as it seems like it might waste flavor and all I have is the one sample right now. I do rinse puer if I am brewing that though. Put on lid. Steep tea, pour a little water over the outside. I have heard of people filling the steeping water til it overflows the outside of the pot a little, I would do that if this oolong weren't in such short supply for me.
6-Steep for however long your first steep in going to be. Pour out (decant). This Yixing pot I'm using now (my first) has a tiny little hole in it's spout, pours rather slowly. I'll remember that for the next one I get.
7-Drink how you're going to, repeat steeps as desired, etc.
The worst part of burning fingers, as I said, is when I'm dealing with the boiling water when rinsing the pot and the cups especially, when pouring out the water into the "sink". Maybe my cups are a little too big or something...the one holds about 5 OZ. Can't really use chopsticks with it because of the weight. (As a secondary comment, I'm going to be more careful about the second yixing I buy...the handle on this one is really rather delicate when I've got the pot filled with water. I'm not afraid it will break, it just feels too small for the weight of the pot).
The towel suggestion might be the best at this point. My husband recommended rubber kitchen gloves. Both kind of take away from the artistry of it so I'll have to maybe adjust my times or something, not sure yet. Any more comments? Thanks for the advice so far though...I've never seen anyone actually do this so I'm learning by reading and by doing as it were. Thanks again
Melinda