I seldom go to fine restaurants anymore. There are no really good ones in my area. And for my taste, few, if any remain in the US. The only reason I see for going to a fine restaurant is if they have a chef who can prepare food that is much better than can easily be prepared at home. Since I now have a mature collection of fine wines collected over many years, their wine lists seldom interest me at their usually highly inflated prices. If you want caviar, Wagyu beef, foie gras, and such you can now have top grades of these shipped overnight, and it does not take a good chef to prepare or serve these. I like the classic lightly poached whole fresh foie gras such as Petrossian sells, and want nothing to do with a rare piece of seared foie gras. I do like my steak rare, but not nearly raw.
My standard for restaurant comparison is the now long-gone Le Pavillion in New York City. Although I only ate there a time or two in, I believe, the early 60s, it forever showed me what a fine restaurant should be and how inferior most others were on comparison. The French restaurant Le Pavillion at the 1938 New York World Fair opened the eyes of the US to what fine French food could be now that fine wines were again possible with the end of prohibition in 1933. To meet the new demand for a fine French restaurant, Le Pavillion was more or less moved to Manhattan after the fair. I do not know anything about these early days. After WWII Le Pavillion was described by some as the only fine restaurant in the US. Not everyone would agree with this, of course.
When I dined at Le Pavillion, it was a fairly large restaurant with a quite large, well trained staff with the maitre d' in white tie and tails, the captains in tuxedo, etc. You were met by a person who may have been the owner and a very friendly check room lady. The maitre d' seemed friendly and took you to your table at once. A wait captain then at once came over with a menu and if you wanted wine, a wine list was at once produced. You were then given time to look at the menus. If you looked up and in the direction of the staff, someone was soon at your table. There were no long speeches. I asked what might go best with the wine I wanted to order. The roast lamb was suggested. I had a garnished consomme to start. This was made from scratch in the classic manner and made that served in most restaurants seem like dish water on comparison. I can only describe the lamb as infant lamb. It was roasted to a fine rare, but not raw, state to capture the best flavor, was perfectly seasoned, and had two tiny lamb rib chops, about the size of a US silver dollar, as garnish. It neary would melt in your mouth. I do not remember the name of the sauce, but it would be the envy of Escoffier himself. The suggested dessert was a classic fruit tart. The puff pastry was absolutely perfect and seemed light despite the richness. The berries were perfectly arranged in circles and covered with a perfect fruit glaze that was so clear it nearly sparkled. There was no rush. When you looked out in the direction of some of the wait staff, someone soon came to ask if you were ready for the next course. Soon dishes were removed, and the next course appeared.
The wine list was large, but not huge. It listed mainly French wines with first growth Bordeauxs going back many years. There were also many half bottles incuding first growths. The wine prices were not nearly as inflated as at many New York City hote restaurants at the time.
The decor was classic, and might not have been out of place on a smaller scale at a large French or English estate dining room.
These days, most so-called fine restaurants are too lazy or do not know how to produce a classic consomme or a proper classic sauce. I am sorry, but some kind of "juice" sloshing around your meat is no substitute for a proper sauce. The "juice" most likely is a reaction to lazy chefs who made sauce from canned stock and too much flour.
As for the restaurant in the LA area, I likely would have either walked out the door or demanded the manager when the fuss was made over the reservations. Of course if you are not alone, you sometimes have to be a little more flexible.
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